before I get into this, I just want to say that I was REALLY happy about 377 being decriminalised. relieved, and happy, but most of all, hopeful. because this was supposed to be a little step, that would open the way up for more. but most people, even gay people, are happy and satisfied with this.
while I understand that is hard for people to get past their conditioning, it doesn't compare to how hard queer people's lives are right now.
I am a lesbian female, moderately feminine, and pretty much pass for straight unless I'm wearing something that indicates otherwise. and yet, I face discrimination with people with whom I'm out. It's incredibly harder for effeminate men and masculine women (even the straight one), and more for transexuals. and for most people who have never faced discrimination in their lives, and are not sensitized enough, they could not begin to understand what the lgbtq community goes through on a daily basis.
about 377. the decriminilisation was good and everything, but it was a fuckall law that has been there for centuries, and the very idea that its removal was celebrated should have served as reminder to the straight people what a fuckall world it is for us.
we weren't legally allowed to have sex.
let that just sink in for a moment. no sex. sex is how love is performed. it's fundamental to all animals. it's natural to want to feel a lover, to hold him, and yes, to fuck him.
think of maslow. the physiological needs are at the bottom of the fucking hierarchy. you can not move upward to the other needs and drives, until the basic needs are fulfilled. decriminalising the right of some people to sex is fucking virulent and invasive.
and it was this need that was denied. straight people (years after campaigns against it): 377 is unjust, it should be removed. well, duh.
also, there is a difference in between decriminalising and condoning. politicians are overtly and explicitly against the whole fact of homosexuality. they're not validating anything, they're not fucking espousing it, they're not even saying it's okay, it's not fucking accepted,
they're just fucking saying if you do it, we won't fucking arrest you
we won't fucking call you "obscene" in the law, but then you will fuckin say it in the newspaper.
some so-called liberals are on the next step. i don't really have a problem with someone being gay but i don't want a friend "like that". i don't have a problem with people being gay "in principle", but i wouldn't be friends with a gay dude.
I have heard from at least three girls I personally know, "I wouldn't mind having a gay best friend, but having a lesbian as a friend would be really awkward". yeah, because what if she likes you. and then makes you gay with her lesbian energy. which is possible. or the most innocent and the most condescendin, it was about time something was done. "they" have been suffering so much. It's the least we could do for "those gay people".
and most of these people think are sensitized. watching western liberal movies, reading yaoi, and fetisiching us. being an ally is the new cool thing. it's good, it's good. but could you be a little more smart about it. "oh, are you gay? That's so cool. are you the butch or the femme?"
straight people don't understand the angst, they think it's too much. too violent, are we? asking for too much. "it takes time to change how people think... we aren't killing you, just wait for the tide to turn..."
think of any fucking independence movement, just people sitting and doig their own private festivals, and writing blogs, kisiko mila hai independence! all revolutions have been violent. the queer fight for rights is a revolution.
these people alienate themselves. they do more harm than good, they hurt people's feelings. they use it as a joke. straight people don't fucking understand what it's like to be in constant fucking judgement. constant. every second I'm with someone to whom I'm out, I'm a representative. it's mentally taxing.
what do you want things to be done? what do you want me to do? why are you yelling at me about this? I am fucking done with straight allies.
everything will be fine in ten years, and that's nothing in the scale of time. if i have a girlfriend and I want to get married next year, it's going to do batshit for me. nothing
while I understand that is hard for people to get past their conditioning, it doesn't compare to how hard queer people's lives are right now.
I am a lesbian female, moderately feminine, and pretty much pass for straight unless I'm wearing something that indicates otherwise. and yet, I face discrimination with people with whom I'm out. It's incredibly harder for effeminate men and masculine women (even the straight one), and more for transexuals. and for most people who have never faced discrimination in their lives, and are not sensitized enough, they could not begin to understand what the lgbtq community goes through on a daily basis.
about 377. the decriminilisation was good and everything, but it was a fuckall law that has been there for centuries, and the very idea that its removal was celebrated should have served as reminder to the straight people what a fuckall world it is for us.
we weren't legally allowed to have sex.
let that just sink in for a moment. no sex. sex is how love is performed. it's fundamental to all animals. it's natural to want to feel a lover, to hold him, and yes, to fuck him.
think of maslow. the physiological needs are at the bottom of the fucking hierarchy. you can not move upward to the other needs and drives, until the basic needs are fulfilled. decriminalising the right of some people to sex is fucking virulent and invasive.
and it was this need that was denied. straight people (years after campaigns against it): 377 is unjust, it should be removed. well, duh.
also, there is a difference in between decriminalising and condoning. politicians are overtly and explicitly against the whole fact of homosexuality. they're not validating anything, they're not fucking espousing it, they're not even saying it's okay, it's not fucking accepted,
they're just fucking saying if you do it, we won't fucking arrest you
we won't fucking call you "obscene" in the law, but then you will fuckin say it in the newspaper.
some so-called liberals are on the next step. i don't really have a problem with someone being gay but i don't want a friend "like that". i don't have a problem with people being gay "in principle", but i wouldn't be friends with a gay dude.
I have heard from at least three girls I personally know, "I wouldn't mind having a gay best friend, but having a lesbian as a friend would be really awkward". yeah, because what if she likes you. and then makes you gay with her lesbian energy. which is possible. or the most innocent and the most condescendin, it was about time something was done. "they" have been suffering so much. It's the least we could do for "those gay people".
and most of these people think are sensitized. watching western liberal movies, reading yaoi, and fetisiching us. being an ally is the new cool thing. it's good, it's good. but could you be a little more smart about it. "oh, are you gay? That's so cool. are you the butch or the femme?"
straight people don't understand the angst, they think it's too much. too violent, are we? asking for too much. "it takes time to change how people think... we aren't killing you, just wait for the tide to turn..."
think of any fucking independence movement, just people sitting and doig their own private festivals, and writing blogs, kisiko mila hai independence! all revolutions have been violent. the queer fight for rights is a revolution.
these people alienate themselves. they do more harm than good, they hurt people's feelings. they use it as a joke. straight people don't fucking understand what it's like to be in constant fucking judgement. constant. every second I'm with someone to whom I'm out, I'm a representative. it's mentally taxing.
what do you want things to be done? what do you want me to do? why are you yelling at me about this? I am fucking done with straight allies.
everything will be fine in ten years, and that's nothing in the scale of time. if i have a girlfriend and I want to get married next year, it's going to do batshit for me. nothing
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